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Understanding Trauma Bonds: Why Detachment Feels Like Addiction There is something present in many relationships, it's often hard to name. You know something is hurting you. You understand it isn’t healthy. You may have even promised yourself you would step away. And yet… you stay. Logically it doesn't make sense. People might have asked you "why don't you just leave?" This is often what people describe as a trauma bond — and one of the easiest ways to understand it is throug

Using AI as a therapist? - I get it. I have asked AI for advice on some issues myself, but here's what I found - It will find a way to agree and collude with you. It makes mistakes ( so do therapists,) It doesn't care - because it can't, It doesn't pick up the subtle nuances of your personality, your body language, It hasn't experienced life, grief, abuse, confusion. It doesn't offer you a comfy chair or a cuppa - or allocated time that's for you only to attend to yourself.

Managing Masking, Preventing Burnout, and Improving Self-Regulation Living with ADHD often involves a significant amount of mental and emotional energy spent on "masking" symptoms to fit in, which can lead to severe burnout. Developing self-regulation strategies and finding safe spaces to be your authentic self is helpful for long-term well-being. Addressing Masking and Preventing Burnout Recognise your masking behaviours: Be aware of when and why you hide your symptoms (e.

🌍 World Mental Health Day: Listening to Our Minds, Honouring Our Capacity Today, on World Mental Health Day , we’re invited to pause and...

Hello, hello! I am delighted to share that I have now achieved BACP accreditation! --- What Does BACP Accreditation Mean? If you’re...

Why a Neurodivergent Counsellor Might Be Exactly What You Need, By N Sherratt If you’re neurodivergent—whether that means you’re autistic, ADHD, dyslexic, or have another form of cognitive difference—finding a counsellor who truly gets you can make a world of difference. For many, that connection is stronger and more affirming when the counsellor is neurodivergent too. Here’s why it can help: 1. Shared Lived Experience A neurodivergent counsellor is more likely to understand

Counselling is often misunderstood. Many people think of it as simply, a place to vent frustrations or unload personal issues. However,...